Association of Foreign Wives of Japanese


  Association of Foreign Wives of Japanese

  Supporting women since 1969



The Journal is published by AFWJ four times a year, and is the official means of communication between AFWJ's Board and members. It contains reports from Board members about therir activities, and reports from District Representatives about events in their area, including upcoming events.

There are also sections about our members, informative articles, short stories, poetry, artwork, personal experiences and other contributions by our members. 

It is available exclusively to members. The following articles have been featured in recent issues:

I Don't Want to Be a Good Japanese Mom!

Being a good mom according to Japanese cultural norms is so much from how I see myself as a mom. Based on my own observations, being a good Japanese mom means completely giving up oneself, one's identity, one's dreams, one's goals, and one's sexuality for one's children and husband. It's often hard to think of my future dreams and goals when I hear and see messages all around me to fit in and be a "good Japanese mom...."

The American High School Option

Have you ever intimated that kids might be having more fun and far less stress back in your home country? I confess to having mouthed off for years, so I should not have been surprised when I asked my twins what high school they wanted to try for and one said,"It is time to be an American boy. Free education with no tests." The other guy said, "I signed up for the rugby team. I don't like tests either and it is close so I can ride my bike and cheap so papa will be happy." So now I have identical twins answering to different nationalities....

Shopping in the Days of Yore

As much as I like country living and coming home to the smell of cows when I turn off the highway, I look forward to going into the heart of Tokyo every season for a morning at Who-Ga, an upscale beauty salon, and an afternoon of surprises in the city. Jenny and I began this ritual a few years ago. We meet at the far end of the Tozai line, and transfer to the Chiyoda about the time we have covered the gardening, teaching, parenting, housekeeping, and cooking topics that make up our world in Chiba. 

The Journal is available exclusively to AFWJ members, but you can read and download a sample journal here:


"A few hours of feeling connected to friends all over Japan - and beyond ! I laugh and I cry with my AFWJ sisters, as they share their stories, insights and experiences, understanding it all." 

E.M. -- Shimane Prefecture

Upcoming Journal Topics:

Summer (June)

The Age Issue!

As AFWJ turns 50, many of our members approach, or have long passed this milestone. Let’s talk about aging - physical, social, economic, or any other angle. What are some of the physical changes or challenges you’ve faced? What part does beauty have to play? What are the social aspects of aging in Japan, where the number of aged citizens is on the rise, but the culture remains unrelentingly focused on youth? How do you cope with ageism? Have you retired, or are you continuing to work?

Deadline: May 1st 2019

Autumn (September)

How Far We've Come

As we celebrate the 50th anniversary convention in Tokyo, let’s reflect on what brought us here, and how far we’ve come. What brought you to Japan (or Japan to you?). How has your life changed over the years, and where has AFWJ fit in with that? What is your personal AFWJ history (please indicate if you wish your stories to be shared with the Historian for display at the convention, or for inclusion in the 50th anniversary magazine to be released after the convention.

Deadline: August 1st 2018

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